Relationships can be complicated. No matter your relationship status, you probably have some questions. Like, what does the bible say about dating? When is the right time for marriage? Why is purity so important? How do i keep my marriage strong? Is there a way to heal from a broken relationship? Or even, how do I teach my kids boundaries around intimacy?Below, you’ll find courses, guides, books, and wisdom to help you find confidence, peace, and direction in any relationship.

Courses

Check out below the upcoming course(s) happening at LIFE.

Men's Course - Conquer

Conquer Course – Joe Laga’aia
10 weeks on Mondays at 7pm – Starting 9 September 2024

 

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER FOR THIS COURSE

 

The Conquer Series is a powerful, 10 week teaching series for men. This series empowers men to overcome porn addiction and walk in true freedom. It combines Biblical teachings with proven principles to help men achieve lasting victory This is not just another study tool for men, but a tried and proven battle plan for purity in a lustful and Godless world. 

This course provides tools and biblical teachings to help men uncover the powerful truths and understanding the complexities of pornography addiction and sexual brokenness. Experience healing and transformation as you embark on this 10-week online journey to purity. 

 

Who is this course for?
Any male wanting to conquer porn and walk in freedom in Christ.

 

What topics are covered?
• Examine the neurochemistry of addiction: Something that starts off as a moral problem, can so quickly become a brain problem. Learn to understand the brain in order to discover how to renew our mind and break destructive patterns.
• Discover the weapons and strategies of God
• Investigate proven strategies to prevent relapse
• Study practical daily techniques to remain free

 

For more info please email info@lifeau.org

Relationship Resources

Marriage

The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment With the Wisdom of God

Based on the acclaimed sermon series by New York Times bestselling author Timothy Keller, this book shows everyone-Christians, skeptics, singles, longtime married couples, and those about to be engaged-the vision of what marriage should be according to the Bible.

Modern culture would have you believe that everyone has a soul mate; that romance is the most important part of a successful marriage; that your spouse is there to help you realize your potential; that marriage does not mean forever, but merely for now; and that starting over after a divorce is the best solution to seemingly intractable marriage issues. But these modern-day assumptions are wrong. Timothy Keller, with insights from Kathy, his wife of thirty-seven years, shows marriage to be a glorious relationship that is also misunderstood and mysterious. The Meaning of Marriage offers instruction on how to have a successful marriage, and is essential reading for anyone who wants to know God and love more deeply in this life.

 

The Marriage Devotional: 52 Days to Strengthen the Soul of Your Marriage – Levi & Jennie Lusko 

Great marriages are made, not born. In this devotional, Levi and Jennie Lusko take turns showcasing the highs and lows of marital relationships and how God uses them to foster a deeper love and a more solid foundation.

  • Unlock new joy and vibrancy by recognising there is better beyond the honeymoon phase
  • Uncomplicated conflict as you learn to fight fairly as members on the same team
  • Access Godly wisdom by engaging and staying steady when your marriage doesn’t look the way you thought it would

 

Love and Respect – Dr Emerson Eggerichs 

Come discover one of the greatest secrets to a successful relationship! Love & Respect will help you and your spouse achieve a deeper level of intimacy by stopping the crazy cycle of conflict, developing better communication skills, and enjoying renewed passion. 

Based on over three decades of counselling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Love and Respect is for anyone: those in marital crisis, the happily married, engaged couples, pastors and counsellors.  

In Love & Respect couples can find: 

  • How to break down the communication code between spouses
  • How to handle conflict in a relationship
  • How to build respect for one another
  • How to foster a deep love for one another
  • How to rekindle passion for one another

 

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts – Gary Chapman 

Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life? 

In the #1 New York Times international bestseller The 5 Love Languages, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today. 

Other topics in this series include: 

  • The five love languages for singles 
  • The five love languages for men 
  • The five love languages of teenagers 
  • The five love languages of children 
  • A teens guide to the five love languages 

Join Dr. Gary Chapman, long-time marriage counsellor and bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages for this self-led six session masterclass presentation on how to build a love that lasts. 

Single, Dating, Engaged

Swipe Right: The Life-and-Death Power of Sex and Romance – Levi Lusko 

In Swipe Right, Pastor Levi Lusko offers compelling reasons to make wise choices in matters of the heart – relationships, sex, dating, and marriage. He encourages listeners to live each day knowing their present choices will immediately become part of their pasts and that their pasts will inevitably come back to visit them in the future. 

 

Loveology: God. Love. Sex. And the Never-Ending Story of Male and Female – John Mark Comer 

A theology of love that will help you navigate the confusing waters of modern relationship. 

In the beginning, God created Adam. Then he made Eve. And ever since we’ve been picking up the pieces. 

This is a book for singles, engaged couples, and the newly married–both inside and outside the church–who want to learn what the Scriptures have to say about sexuality and relationships.  

 

Purity

Every Man’s Battle, Revised and Updated 20th Anniversary Edition: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time 

You can be victorious in the battle for sexual integrity. Every man’s Battle reveals detailed strategy and has helped millions of men win the war against temptation.

This updated edition of the bestselling classic offers: 

  • Guidance for navigating cultural challenges with a godly view of women and sexuality 
  • Current insights into the proven connection between porn and sexual dysfunction 
  • Critical advances in brain science that show how addiction affects our minds 
  • Practical solutions to for lustful thoughts and wondering eyes

 

Every Woman’s Battle: Discovering God’s Plan for Sexual and Emotional Fulfillment 

The only way woman can survive the intense struggle for sexual integrity is by guarding not just your body, but your mind and heart as well. Every Woman’s Battle can help you learn to do that whether you’re married, single, engaged or dating. 

This bestselling book offers: 

  • Understand the four unique components of female sexuality 
  • Design a new defence to protect every aspect of your life 
  • Cultivate an unimaginable level of legacy with your husband or husband to be 
  • Develop your relationship with the only one who can truly satisfy: Jesus 

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Other topics in this series include: 

  • Every young man’s battle: Strategies for sexual victory 
  • Every young woman’s battle: Strategies for sexual victory 
  • Every man’s marriage: A guide to winning the heart of a woman 
  • Every woman’s marriage: A guide to winning the heart of a man 
  • Every Single man’s battle: A guide to sexual purity 
  • Every Single woman’s battle: A guide to sexual purity 
  • Every heart restored: A guide to healing in the wake of a spouse sexual sin 
Family

The Chat: For Fathers With Sons, Understanding Puberty, Pornography, Sex & Marriage

The Chat is an unapologetic Bible based, children’s book written specifically for 7-10 year old boys to read with their fathers. The whole experience is interactive and will help strengthen the bonds between parent and child. It also opens the door to future conversations.

It is a children’s book that has been written to help fathers have the all important ‘sex chat’ with their sons. It is a brilliant Christian resource that acts as a conversation starter. The book is split into two sections; the first portion helping fathers to prepare themselves for the conversation, while section 2 (dedicated for both fathers and sons) is brilliantly illustrated to engage young boys. The Chat discusses the pertinent issues of sex, puberty, pornography and gender.

 

How to Really Love Your Child

You know you love your child. You attend school events, care for physical needs, and discipline when needed. But did you know that most children, even in loving households, doubt that they are genuinely and unconditionally loved?

In this book, Dr. Ross explains the emotional needs of a child and provides you with skills that will help your child feel truly loved and accepted. Using eye contact, affirmation, and spiritual nurturing, you’ll learn to really love your child no matter what the circumstances.

 

The 3 Big Questions for a Frantic Family: A Leadership Fable… About Restoring Sanity to the Most Important Organization In Your Life

As a husband and as the father of four young boys, Lencioni realized the discrepancy between the time and energy his clients put into running their organizations and the reactive way most people run their personal lives. Having experienced the stress of a frantic family firsthand, he and his wife began applying some of the tools he uses with Fortune 500 companies at home, and with surprising results.

In the book, you’ll learn to answer questions like:

  • What makes my family unique?
  • What is my family’s biggest priority–its rallying cry–right now?
  • How can my family use the answers to these questions today, next week, and next year?

An indispensable resource for busy professionals with full family lives, The 3 Big Questions for a Frantic Family belongs on the bookshelves of anyone who has ever struggled to balance leading people at work with leading a family unit.

 

Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut & The Welcome Mat Out

If you’ve raised a child, you know that parenting doesn’t stop when they turn eighteen. In many ways, your relationship gets even more complicated–your heart and your head are as involved as ever, but you can feel things shifting, whether your child lives under your roof or rarely stays in contact.

Doing Life with Your Adult Children helps you navigate this rich and challenging season of parenting. Speaking from his own personal and professional experience, Burns offers practical answers to the most common questions he’s received over the years, including:

  • My child’s choices are breaking my heart–where did I go wrong
  • Is it OK to give advice to my grown child
  • What’s the difference between enabling and helping
  • What boundaries should I have if my child moves back home
  • What do I do when my child doesn’t seem to be maturing into adulthood
  • How do I relate to my grown child’s significant other
  • What does it mean to have healthy financial boundaries
  • How can I support my grown children when I don’t support their values

Including positive principles on bringing kids back to faith, ideas on how to leave a legacy as a grandparent, and encouragement for every changing season, Doing Life with Your Adult Children is a unique book on your changing role in a calling that never ends.

 

Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children

Discover how setting biblical boundaries can improve your parenting and your relationship with your children.

In this book, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend share their research and guidance you need to raise your kids to take responsibility for their actions and emotions and enable them to lead balanced, productive, and fulfilling adult lives.

The tools and guidance provided in Boundaries with Kids will change the way you view healthy boundaries, no matter where you are in your parenting journey. You’ll learn how to:

  • Define appropriate boundaries and consequences for your kids.
  • Set limits and still be a loving parent.
  • Bring balance to an out-of-control family life.
  • Understand the six steps to implementing boundaries in your home.

 

The 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children Effectively

You know you love your child. But how can you show it so they really feel loved? Discover how to speak your child’s love language and make them feel loved in a way they understand. Dr. Gary Chapman and Dr. Ross Campbell help you:

  • Discover your child’s love language
  • Understand the link between successful learning and the love languages
  • See how the love languages can help you discipline more effectively
  • Build a foundation of unconditional love for your child

Plus: Find dozens of tips for practical ways to speak your child’s love language. Discover your child’s primary language, then speak it, and you will be on your way to a stronger relationship and seeing your child flourish.

 

5 Traits of a Healthy Family: Steps You Can Take to Grow Closer, Communicate Better, and Change the World Together 

Is your family all that it could be?  

So often we examine the traits of unhealthy families, but Gary Chapman paints a biblical portrait of what a loving, stable family looks like. He details five timeless characteristics that create a healthy family environment: 

  • A heart for service  
  • Husbands and wives who relate intimately  
  • Parents who guide their children  
  • Children who obey and honour their parents  
  • Husbands who love and lead 

 

Talking With Teens About Sexuality Book  
Talking with Teens about Sexuality will help you understand your teen’s world and give you effective strategies in the midst of cultural pressures. Drs. Robinson and Scott provide scientifically reliable and biblically based information about: 

  • Gender fluidity 
  • Types of intimacy 
  • Online dangers 
  • Setting boundaries, and much more. 

Along the way, the book provides useful conversation starters and insightful guidance. Don’t let fear keep you from engaging in vital conversations. Learn how to talk to your teen with knowledge and confidence, guiding them toward a sexually healthy future. 

Sex – God's Way

The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment With the Wisdom of God

Based on the acclaimed sermon series by New York Times bestselling author Timothy Keller, this book shows everyone-Christians, skeptics, singles, longtime married couples, and those about to be engaged-the vision of what marriage should be according to the Bible.

Modern culture would have you believe that everyone has a soul mate; that romance is the most important part of a successful marriage; that your spouse is there to help you realize your potential; that marriage does not mean forever, but merely for now; and that starting over after a divorce is the best solution to seemingly intractable marriage issues. But these modern-day assumptions are wrong. Timothy Keller, with insights from Kathy, his wife of thirty-seven years, shows marriage to be a glorious relationship that is also misunderstood and mysterious. The Meaning of Marriage offers instruction on how to have a successful marriage, and is essential reading for anyone who wants to know God and love more deeply in this life.

 

Swipe Right: The Life-and-Death Power of Sex and Romance – Levi Lusko 

In Swipe Right, Pastor Levi Lusko offers compelling reasons to make wise choices in matters of the heart – relationships, sex, dating, and marriage. He encourages listeners to live each day knowing their present choices will immediately become part of their pasts and that their pasts will inevitably come back to visit them in the future. 

 

Everyone Loves Sex: So Why Wait? A Discussion in Sexual Faithfulness

More than 100 million acts of sex occur every day in our world. If we are going to engage this arising generation, we need to rethink how we frame the sexual faithfulness conversation.

And that’s exactly what this book does! Instead of the tired “Don’t—because the Bible says so” rhetoric, Everyone Loves Sex uncovers what psychology and sociology reveal—and the results may surprise you! Sexual faithfulness is about committing to one’s future spouse—in spite of what one’s sexual life has looked like in the past. The future can be different! It is about making the change and honouring the one you love (or will love). Rather than casting judgment or condemnation, this book casts a vision for what your life could be, inspiring you to not only embrace positive change, but make a difference in the lives of others!

 

The Best Sex For Life

We live in a world of rampant individualism and self-absorption, in which mass culture assures us that sexual satisfaction is an entitlement. Real life inevitably falls short of the hype, leaving us dissatisfied. Sex is not as frequent, exciting or orgasmic as it’s supposed to be, and we search for someone to blame.

Whether you’ve accepted that ‘this is as good as it gets’, struggle in ignorance, or turn to other sources for fulfilment, know that this is not how God intended sex to be! The best way to have a happy, fulfilled sex life is to understand God’s purpose for sexuality and to be willing to live under biblical direction for our relationships in marriage and beyond.

Includes chapters on:

  • A theology of biblical sexology
  • Understanding your body as a sexual organ
  • Premarital Sexuality ‘Diamond Ring to Wedding Band’
  • Honeymoon Sexpectations
  • Marriage: Spiced up Sanctification
  • Good sex in marriage
  • Grow old with me: Sex and the 60+

 

Is God Anti-gay? And Other Questions About Jesus, the Bible, and Same-Sex Sexuality 

Is it ok to be gay and Christian? Does the bible really say that homosexuality is wrong? Is sexual orientation fundamental to identity? 

Author Sam Allberry has expanded his best-selling book, which he draws on from personal authenticity and biblical teaching. This new addition frames the whole discussion with Jesus’ general teaching on sex and marriage about finding ultimate satisfaction and happiness.  

 

Gay Girl, Good God – Jackie Hill Perry  

Jackie Hill Perry shares her own story of how God broke into her life and turned her heart toward him in the light of the gospel. Readers will gain insight into gender confusion and its causes and will find the practical tools that helped Jackie find wholeness. 

 

Out of a Far Country  

With raw honesty, Angela Yuan and her son Christopher share their story of his journey as a homosexual man, from substance abuse and sexual addiction through to a place of healing and redemption. In this brave account, the parable of the prodigal son becomes real life. 

It's Complicated (Separated, Divorced)

Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are – Lysa Terkeust 

Relationships are wonderful…until they’re not. 

Stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships and learn biblical ways to set boundaries and, when necessary, say goodbye. 

After thousands of hours of counselling intensives and extensive theological research that transformed the way she defined healthy relationships, Lysa is now more committed than ever to loving people well without losing the best of who she is. 

In these pages, Lysa will help you: 

  • Understand the five factors to remember when implementing healthy boundaries.
  • Determine the appropriate amount of personal and emotional access someone has to you.
  • Stop being misled and emotionally paralysed by wrongly interpreted or weaponised Bible verses that perpetuate unhealthy relationships.
  • Be equipped with effective boundary-setting tools, such as realistic scripts and practical strategies for healthier communication.
  • Be empowered to say goodbye without guilt when a relationship has shifted from difficult to destructive.

 

Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends 

If you are going through a painful breakup or divorce, you may feel like the life you once knew is crashing down around you. You need help to gather the pieces and “rebuild” yourself from the ground up. In Rebuilding: When your relationship ends, Brue Fisher draws on over two decades of research to help in areas such as denial, fear, loneliness, rejection, grief, self-worth, singleness, and freedom, and many more.